19/08/2008

disturbed

by this

Cant really say that I don't have an opinion on this. so here goes.

do i stare ? yes, i do. I believe, more than half the men do. pass comments ? again, mostly yes. Some try to hide it. from the target. due to decency or a pretense at it.But the inner thoughts seem to be the same.

well, What should a girl do when something like this happens. just bear it, act totally ignorant and carry on?

It happens everyday. I know it happens in my office. behind a shield of personal small talk or an innocuous joke, but the suggestions are sometimes very obvious.
many just shrug it off.
Wise. failing to acknowledge seems to be the best way.
otherwise :
suppose the offender was a serious criminal with serious intentions, that's a different problem. But what if he was just a fool acting under some impulse. well, i would prefer if these latter aren't rubbed the wrong way, turning harmless/foolish men into serious criminals.

The best way seems to not attract attention at all in first place. This might mean having to wear boring clothes.not trying to even talk loud. not walking alone. All this might seem like going back ages. but then, accept that we are not yet out of those ages.

it might be one case out of a 1000. of girls being targeted. but when that one happens to be you, or your near ones, it hurts.

10 comments:

Gayathri said...

"But what if he was just a fool acting under some impulse. "
You don't know how much it disturbs a girl. Can't even imagine. Trust me.

"The best way seems to not attract attention at all in first place."
Wrong.
"This might mean having to wear boring clothes."
Again, wrong.
"not trying to even talk loud. not walking alone."
Wrong, wrong, wrong.

It happens anywhere, everywhere, anytime, no matter how attractive/unattractive/loud/silent/accompanied/unaccompanied/covered-up/skimpily-clothed a girl is.

N.V.Prashanth said...
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N.V.Prashanth said...

We need to wake up to the present where men and women are both victimized and need to be equally sympathized!

i may not be correct said...

hmmm.. yenna da aahcu?? onnum purila..

U said...

cant agree more with you and gayathri ...

Arun said...

jagan,
ithukku peruthaan diplomacy'aa??

Ramakrishnan said...

g3,
i still dont think it was necessary/smart to react the way you did.
i may be wrong in what i proposed. i was thinking about how could the risks be minimized.

prash,
agreed. just that i think women are more potential targets of physical or more serious violence

i ... correct,
yar idhu ? anyways i think you should read the link and then read my post.

jagan,
:)

arun,
paathiya?

Gayathri said...

Not necessary????????
You've proved it - after all, you are also a man. I am not returning to this post again.

Colossus of Chaos said...

Agree to your last line. otherwise there's nothing wrong under the sun.

Vani :) said...

Well, it happened to me so many times inspite of wearing boring clothes and staying reserved... no exeception in the eyes of the nasty criminal whether dangerous or dumb...